This outward behavior in the form of adjustment and dependency undermines the development of identi

In "The insanity of normality - Realism as a disease: ДЌestlice a theory of human destructiveness" ДЌestlice of Arno Gruen (1987), ДЌestlice an attempt is made destructive human behavior from a psychoanalytic perspective to explain. Here the thesis is established that a possible cause of destructive behavior mechanisms can be found in the development of a split self of his inner core. This development Gruen describes in his book as "the insanity of normality."
According to the author the cleavage already begins in early childhood development and is often a subconscious reaction of the child to "false" or empathy, unconditional love and parenting styles of parents. This lack of love is the child not hidden (see also Maaz (2012) - "The narcissistic society - a psychological profile") and thus the (often unconscious) drive created by those orient their own life expressions of the parents to still true love and appreciation to receive. On the relationship between empathy inability of parents and the resulting dependence and adaptation of the child I would like to focus on the following link.
This outward behavior in the form of adjustment and dependency undermines the development of identity and integration of the child, and thus arises a discrepancy between inner and outer experience, which brings a not to be underestimated inner conflict with himself. The discrepancy resulting from the aforementioned conflicting emotional experience of the child must be visible to people in the environment does not necessarily mean it is not hidden inside their own conflict. Green is in the course of his book on the theory that this split self from within the person, as "free" ДЌestlice decision of the individual may be considered to still convert the pseudo love of parents in genuine love.
Green sees this as a cause for the emergence of conscious, but more often unconscious self-hatred that is in expansion in the form of anger, aggression, ДЌestlice violence and destructiveness. You hate yourself because you a false life (based on the lie that is obtained by adjusting love and appreciation) has selected or developed. Why are all of these people in solidarity and human traits (eg, real feelings, real or genuine grief guilt) devalued, shunned and suppressed because they remember the early lack of love experienced. Consequently, the rest died of empathy from (the resulting consequences I do not discuss here) and your own emotional world is characterized only by emptiness and anger. The lie of betraying a self remains ignored, ДЌestlice but still noticeable, which feeds the hatred again with food. A vicious circle!
Therefore seems to be the only "true" way to get it to feel alive for many persons violence, hatred and destructiveness. Consequently, enemies ДЌestlice must be invented to establish a necessary projection for the inner hatred. This hatred may give validity in different ДЌestlice forms of expression. On one hand, in an outwardly sporting asked aggression ДЌestlice or other hidden variations in the use of force as they are found in such egotistical, selfish or narcissistic behaviors open. However, on this topic I will not go into detail, since due to its complexity, it requires a separate development. However, this question here embarked "aggressively hateful way" to deal with the tasks of life is rather a depression, instead of eliminating the problem. The person remains split off from their inner emotional world and the dependence and submission to external factors is nurtured.
The development of personal responsibility (for life) is an important key to green, to break the vicious cycle of self-hatred. This responsibility goes hand in hand with the realization of one's own inadequacy and pain about missing an independent identity and paves the way to be able to feel empathy and to come closer to its inner core. Often there are completely different things in life make us happy and not what is suggested to us by outsiders. The key question should be - why it even exists the aspect of such a "happiness-suggestion"?
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